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RHOA Season 8 Episode 10

Posted by Lmarbly on January 11, 2016 at 10:20 AM Comments comments (0)

RHOA Season 8 Episode 10

Trouble on the Family Tree




For those who watch this show and caught this episode it became painfully clear to me about Kenya’s personality. She has a larger than life persona and the root of it; I feel is the abandonment by her own mother. I thought this was a perfect time to address something that goes on all too often in our communities. Kenya’s situation is not unique. In that, two parents (in Kenya’s case teenagers) were having sex and it resulted in unexpected consequence; a baby that didn’t ask to come here and certainly didn’t ask to come here to be neglected and discarded. Her grandfather supposedly said he didn’t want any more illegitimate children coming into his home. Parents really need to talk to their children/teenagers about having sex before they are ready, don’t just tell them not to do it (we know forbidden fruit is tempting) Let them know the ramifications of too soon sex. Not just diseases, jaded feelings etc, but a living breathing human being can result. There was a time when having a child OOW was frowned upon, it wasn’t seen as something to glorify and uplift the way it is today. Children are the ones that suffer from coming here before individuals are ready for them.

Obviously I don’t know the whole story of Kenya and her situation, just what she allows us to see but it is so wrong to do a child like that. People may say that she is an adult now; she’s rich, fabulous and famous. All of that does not; I repeat does not make up for something that you desperately missed during your formative years. I hope that Ms. Moore gets the resolution she is seeking and if her mother never reaches out I hope she still gets peace regarding it.


Porsha, Porsha, Porsha


Any woman who is an older sister may understand Porsha’s angst. Her younger sister kept her pregnancy from her at first not knowing how she would handle it. That in itself can be hurtful and insulting. Porsha admits that she wanted the family life, husband, baby (perhaps career) and she bravely admitted that she would give up the fabulous life she has now at the chance of a family. Some women put career and money first and find a family even harder to obtain later. I feel Porsha is the reason she is out of her own marriage. She allowed those other RHOA women to shame her for wanting to be a “submissive wife” (remember the Las Vegas trip Season 5 episode 17?) and while that may be archaic today, it was her choice. Clearly I don’t know the ins and outs of what went on in her marriage. But now she is putting herself on front street as a desperate acting woman and men can and will take advantage of that.








RHOA The shades of it all

Posted by Lmarbly on November 10, 2015 at 9:00 PM Comments comments (0)

RHOA-The shades of it all Season 8 E1

I’m a huge fan of this show and was eagerly waiting for its return. It will be entertaining to see how RHOA fares without Ms. “I’m a rich bitch” Nene. Honestly I never cared for her (personality) so there is no love loss on my end. But I’m big enough to wish her the best in her endeavors.


Ms. Kenya is probably my favorite “housewife” I guess she wouldn’t be Kenya if she didn’t throw some shade around and her target this time was Sheree. I don’t know why Kenya wanted to clown on Sheree for her house not being completed when there was so much people could say about her recently acquired foreclosed home. Did you see it? It was creepy I was waiting for the theme to Psycho or Halloween to start playing. With that said I see Kenya’s vision for the house. With money and the right contractors it will be “twirl on this” fabulous.


Who didn’t see Peter inappropriately all over another woman? He can try to justify it all he wants but it didn’t look innocent. Even if it was, as a married man his hands should not have been placed on another woman so intimately. If it was as innocent as he claims it to be, when his wife told him it was embarrassing to her and she didn’t like it, he should have apologized and made promises of never doing something like that again. But he can’t because he knows it was not innocent and it was very suspect. How would he feel if another man was all over Cynthia like that?

I hate to call a woman desperate to get married but in Cynthia’s case-I feel she was in a rush to marry and married a man who still has an “I’m single” mindset. Cynthia herself said Peter sold her a dream and she chose to believe him. (Even though I am convinced there were red flags she chose to ignore) I’m sorry a man who has multiple children by different women is not even remotely close to husband material.


I always liked Porsha, I got the vibe from her that she was a mature woman. When she first showed up on RHOA I thought she was going to be the true definition of a housewife –albeit a trophy wife. I maintain to this day that she allowed those other women to get her out of her marriage. (Remember the Vegas trip and she didn’t want to go to the strip club because her husband at the time forbade it?) It was her prerogative not to go if she didn’t want to-but that’s another subject. Now that she is divorced I feel these are her true colors ie hoochified (she’s not coming off as a pious, submissive type woman now) she suppressed it for her now ex-husband, she wanted to be buck wild then. You can’t pretend to be something you’re not forever. As for her and her well-built tenderoni, I don’t see it lasting. A) he’s still rather young and I’m sure wants to sow some oats and B) She’s not that mature, not for marriage. IMO.


I tried to like her, but after this mess with Apollo and trying to act like she is the innocent victim here is irksome. She knew what she was getting when she married him.


She looks very cute pregnant. That’s all I got on her. On another social site I like to visit, I had a lot to say about her and Todd, but right now I have nothing.




Posted by Lmarbly on November 7, 2015 at 11:50 AM Comments comments (0)


Lord where to start. I watch the show and I am intrigued. It’s like a ghetto Dallas. However there have been some episodes and scenes that leave much to be desired. Yes I’m aware I can change the channel and not watch, but that doesn’t mean I can’t have an opinion or make observations. On a social media site I like to visit, a few posters were up in arms over the blatant stereotypes of black people in this show (especially black women) And I asked the question, would we as a whole support a cast of black characters who were NOT stereotypes? (yes we did once, in the 80’s with the Huxables, but would it work today? My short answer would be no. Obviously Empire is striking a cord with many viewers and even though I see the stereotypes many people speak of, I still watch the show, because at the end of the day it is entertainment and I know how to exercise my right to change the channel.

I didn’t care too much for the gorilla in a cage-Season 2 episode 1. Think about it, their last name is Lyon, so why not a lion in a cage? There are some elements in our society that already think black people are animals particularly primates.

The black women are typically the stereotype-loud, unattractive, not soft or feminine while in contrast lighter hued women are seen as softer, sought after etc. When “Tiana” was robbed it was two rough and tumble ghetto girls that attacked her. That newest female rapper is masculine “Freda” (sorry nothing cute about her or her persona) vs feminine “Laura” from Hakeem’s all girl latina group. Some might say I’m reading more into this than I should, but again it’s simply an observation.

Chris Rock as a hardened criminal? Was I the only one who laughed and said yeah right?

I want to touch on the gay aspect of this show and Lee’s total disrespect of Christianity, but I know people are way too sensitive on certain subjects so I will leave this one alone for now.

Becky-(Gabourey Sidibe) -Fortunately my eyes missed her sex scene, but plenty of people are talking about it online of course. I am torn over this. It’s great to see a larger sized black woman, especially a dark skinned one in a nice role on a popular tv show, however, most people will view her as comic relief. People are laughing at her, not with her.



Married to medicine

Posted by Lmarbly on September 10, 2015 at 12:30 AM Comments comments (0)

I know i'm a day late and a dollar short but this is in response to the week before last episode-I also cut and pasted this off of a site I frequent (It is me-so I'm not plagiarizing) I did change some words around though.

I didn't catch 9/6 episode yet, I can't wait, I know it's going to be some hot mess.

I'm liking this season as sordid and messy as it is.

I thought it was funny how Lisa chided Darren when Heavenly asked him to be one of the “participants” I also thought it was very shady of Heavenly to do that. For starters given the track record of what Lisa is going through with her husband. I realize of all the husband’s he is the better looking one (Cecil is a cutie though) but I wonder would she have asked any of the other husbands to do that? Why didn't she ask HER husband to get up on stage and pass himself off as single? Darren was dumb to do it and did anyone else notice how he was like a deer in the headlights over Claudia? I like Dr Heavenly and all, but I notice she likes to throw shade and go there with other women, but when it comes back to her own door she becomes belligerent.

Toya irks me, I was neutral on her, but she is coming off as an empty headed gold digger who would dump her husband and get with another man if he lost his job.

Don’t like Quad, I’ve expressed that before.

Jill and her husband, yeah, typical “hot blonde” though she isn’t hot and nerdy husband, the only reason I feel she is with him is for his status and money. I think there is something more behind what went down between them.

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Kenya Moore's Millionaire Matchmaker boyfriend..

Posted by Lmarbly on May 12, 2015 at 10:10 PM Comments comments (0)

is married.

Courtesy by Taryn Ryder

Well, this relationship probably didn't go according to Patti Stanger's plan.


Kenya Moore just revealed that her boyfriend, James Freeman, whom she met on the Bravo show Millionaire Matchmaker wasn't as unattached as he seemed. The Real Housewives of Atlanta star just revealed she found out he married someone else behind her back while they were dating.

"Unfortunately, I just learned today that the man I met and fell in love with from Millionaire Matchmaker was married a week after the show aired. I am astounded and devastated to have learned this news VIA social media as opposed to from him directly," the 44-year-old reality star wrote on Instagram. "However, I still believe in love and my heart remains open to the man God has for me. I wish him well."

Moore met Freeman after being set up by Stanger, the Millionaire Matchmaker's relationship expert. On the show, Moore talked about how she has been proposed to seven times, but nothing worked out because of her fear of abandonment. After the episode aired in March, it was revealed Kenya and James were still together.

The former Miss USA even shared a pic (above) with Freeman, writing alongside the shot: "Sometimes you can spend your whole life looking for Prince Charming when a King arrives. Thank you @pattistanger @cynthiabailey10 and my fans for your love and support and desire for my happiness. #matchmaker #KingJames #FriendsFirst #MillionaireMatchmaker."

Yikes. Patti… what do you have to say about this??

Wow, I was hoping for the best for her. I'm also glad to see Kenya admit that the reason why she is 44 and still single is due to abandonment issues. I like Kenya, but some of her stans are very delusional. Just because a women is beautiful and successful doesn't mean she knows how to get and keep a man, sometimes hinderances are the women themselves. I speak from experience. My mother didn't abandon me, neither did my father, but never knowing him made me scared to be loved by a man-but at some point she has to stop using her past as a crutch and look within herself, and why she keeps picking unavailable men.

James, was very foul for this. He knew he was married or about to be and he still went on TV to get this woman's hopes up. I hope this is not a setback for her and she comes out stronger for it, but honestly at her age, which is a year younger than me, she should know the tricks of some men by now. I really don't believe no red flags went up when she was dealing with him. And what about his wife, where was she? Apparently he was lying to her as well.

#RHOA #KenyaMoore

The Real Housewives of Atlanta Reunion my opinion

Posted by Lmarbly on April 27, 2015 at 9:25 PM Comments comments (0)

Even though I don't like all of the ladies, I have to admit they all looked beautiful in their white.

I'm liking Kenya better this season, than seasons past. I'd been in a few "arguments" on another site over the whole Kenya, Phaedra and Apollo debacle. I felt seasons past, Kenya gave Phaedra plenty of reasons to dislike her.

Kenya said in the reunion that everybody flirts. I wonder how she would feel if her husband, if she ever marries were to flirt. What if he flirted with PORSHA, how would SHE feel about that?

Phaedra-I was always neutral on Phaedra, but I am really disliking her this season. I don't like how she is using her kids to "punish" Apollo in my opinion. She keeps bringing up not wanting to take her kids to prison to see their father and what effect it will have on them yadda yadda yadda. They are too young to understand their father is in prison (his fault though) all they know is Daddy is not there. Apollo is the man she picked and her holding the kids back from Apollo, she could ultimately hurt THEM.

Porsha-I liked Porsha early on, but she is proving to be............I don't know. I liked her better when she came off as sweet and a little dingy, and I do believe she was messing with a married man. She said she doesn't, but if you can mess with a married man, lying shouldn't be too hard for you.

Claudia-I'm fairly neutral on her. She doesn't seem warm and inviting to me, but I love how she gets right back at Nene.

Nene-I can't stand her. She is loud and bullish and doesn't see that about herself. In the upcoming episodes, when she tells Dr Gardner she doesn't want to talk about her mother, I may find some sympathy for her. I feel that, larger than life, I'm not scared of anything is an act to cover her true feelings of insecurity. I always knew it was something behind that bravado.

Kandi-I'm liking Kandi a little more than I use to.

Ben Powers from Good times has passed

Posted by Lmarbly on April 18, 2015 at 10:10 PM Comments comments (0)

Credit-The Hollywood reporter

Truly sad, I had kind of a crush on him back then. May he RIP.

'Good Times' Actor Ben Powers Dies at 64



Ben Powers and Bern Nadette Stanis on 'Good Times.'

by Mike Barnes, Ryan Gajewski


4/18/2015 6:05pm PDT



Ben Powers, who played Thelma's (Bern Nadette Stanis) husband Keith Anderson on the final season of the classic CBS sitcom Good Times, has died. He was 64.


Powers died April 6 in Providence, R.I., his family announced.


He joined the cast of Good Times for its sixth and final season, playing Keith, a professional football player.


"My condolences goes out to the family of Ben Powers, who past a few days ago," Stanis wrote on Facebook. "He was a great actor and great friend who is gone too soon. He will be missed by many. Until next lifetime, my friend."


Posted by Lmarbly on March 14, 2015 at 3:15 PM Comments comments (0)

Who doesn't love this show? Honestly when I started seeing the previews for this show, I judged it right away saying I probably wouldn't watch it. Well from the first episode I was hooked. It is beautifully done and I love the complex characters on the show, I find many shows tend to make black characters one dimensional, so it's nice to see a gamut of personalities.

We all knew that Lucious and Cookie would fall back into each others arms, and we also know that if Lucious could have Cookie and Anika at the same time he would.

I can't wait for the season finale.

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Lisa Marbly-Warir is an avid reader and has been writing for years. She started out writing fan fiction of celebrities and TV/movie characters. Michael Jackson was her favorite to write about and it garnered her a small following. She published her first book Destinee romance novella (completed 2001) January 2015. Painting and drawing is also a favorite pastime though she doesn’t do it as often as she used to. Next to reading, writing and drawing, Lisa also loves to travel. She has been to Europe, the Caribbean and North Africa as well as travels throughout the United States. You will see she incorporates some of her travel journeys into her stories. One of her quotes “Writing is an escape, and I love living through my characters and bringing them to life”


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